[Buddha-l] Is polyamory kilesa?

[Joy Vriens]

Hi Stefan,
 
>Would the Buddha dissapprove of such 'unconditional giving', if it made 
>people happy and loving? 

I don't know about the Buddha, but I remember that when I was a newly ordinated monk, the center I lived received the visit of the Tibetan Khenpo Tsultim Gyatso and his flock of lay disciples. As the host, we did puja together and were allowed to listen in to the advice that the Khenpo gave to his disciples. He sang songs by Milarepa and other yogis and encouraged his disciples (grogs po, grogs mo)  to not be in fix and steady relationships but to freely swap around so as to not become attached. I remember this created quite a buzz in the center and quite a lot of unhappiness among the more attachment prone. Or perhaps this was merely the spin and propaganda for the monks and nuns in our community... :-) But this teaching method only lasted one summer. The next summers (he visited every summer) it was back to the more traditional methods.