[Buddha-l] Being in Love

[[DPD Web] Shen Shi'an]

Just found the sutta source that vaguely hinges on "romantic love":
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/an/an04/an04.055.than.html 
(It wasn't about a king and queen, but two householders)

[The Blessed One said:] "If both husband & wife want to see one another
not only in the present life but also in the life to come, they should
be in tune [with each other] in conviction, in tune in virtue, in tune
in generosity, and in tune in discernment. Then they will see one
another not only in the present life but also in the life to come."

Husband & wife, both of them
	having conviction,
	being responsive,
	being restrained,
	living by the Dhamma,
	addressing each other
	with loving words:
they benefit in manifold ways.
	To them comes bliss.
Their enemies are dejected
	when both are in tune in virtue.
Having followed the Dhamma here in this world,
	both in tune in precepts & practices,
they delight in the world of the devas,
enjoying the pleasures they desire.


-----Original Message-----
From: Stefan Detrez [mailto:stefandetrez at hotmail.com] 
Sent: Wednesday, 20 February, 2008 2:44 AM
To: Buddhist discussion forum
Subject: RE: [Buddha-l] Being in Love

Dear readers, 

> Sure, I don't expect the Buddha was much of a fan of possessive love,

> but then neither am I. Still, that comes with the territory of living

> with a woman who has given me half of her life, who carried our  
> daughter in her womb, and who breaks the crust of my ego every day. I

> sure wouldn't trade her for the rhinoceros lifestyle. No doubt Joanna

> is right that this sort of thing just wasn't part of the emotional/ 
> cultural vocabulary in the Buddha's time and place. He wouldn't have  
> chosen it, anyway. But I am not he. Not by a long shot. So, we all  
> just keep stumbling along.