[Buddha-l] Being in Love

[h.godavari at shaw.ca]

Jackhat1 at aol.com wrote:

> In a message dated 2/16/2008 12:29:21 P.M. Central Standard Time,
> twin_oceans at yahoo.com writes:
>
> Stefan  wrote:
> “A friend of mine asked me what 'Buddhism' says about being  in love. [ . . .]
>
> My assumption is that it is  considered as a delusion. If so, does 'Buddhism'
> seek to eliminate  this particular delusion? What advice does the Buddha give
> to lay  folks on 'what to do when being in love' (in any tradition)? Does it
> receive approval in a family-forming context? Could being in love as  a
> delusion produce happiness?
>
> Any  suggestions are welcome.
> ===
> I can't give any canonical reference to this opinion but here is what I
> understand from the whole of Buddhism that I know. There is a kind of love that
> is grasping, unhappy when it goes away, possibly harmful to the love object, a
> if you do what I like I love you but if not, I don't. There is another kind
> of  love that is the opposite of the above. The latter kind of love is blessed
> by  Buddhism.
>
> jack
>

Aren't "the nine cemetary contemplations" a cure for this delusion ?

regards
harsha godavari