[Buddha-l] Is polyamory kilesa?

[jkirk]

Since the Buddha himself is not represented as having any such experience,
how can what he said about fornication, or whatever word is used to
translate that precept, be taken literally? 
Seems to me people have to find their own way on this deal. However,
polyamory was big in the 60s and 70s (they called it "open marriage") and it
led to lots of broken households and rigorous emotional distress of both
adults and children.  I never heard anyone defend the idea seriously, except
as a "fun thing to do" rationalized as "freedom."  IMO, the sexual freedom
ideology of the sixties was among its more stupid ideas.

Joanna 
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"I'm convinced you can have sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy 'out of
wedlock', without that threatening the love you feel for your primary
partner and vice versa"
- I am not convinced of this - - in practice.. - not that I have had that
much practice at it...

maybe it is more akusala than kilesa?

D.

> Dear folks,
>
> One of the precepts states you shouldn't do sexual misconduct. Would this
> be
> from a monogamous point of view? Suppose you love several partners at the
> same time, let's say, like in a polyamorous situation, where all involved
> are aware of the who's-in. Would this be 'kilesa'? If so, why? As far as I
> understood Buddhism (with exception of Tantra), sexuality is approached
> pretty negatively, as if it were all lust only. But I'm convinced you can
> have sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy 'out of wedlock', without that
> threatening the love you feel for your primary partner and vice versa.
>
> Why would polyamory be 'poisonous' from a Buddhist point of view or any
> point of view?
>
> Stefan
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